Set the slow cooker to the sear setting or heat a large skillet over medium-high heat. Add olive oil and butter. Once melted, toss in the leeks, garlic, red pepper flakes, and a pinch of salt.
Cook for about 5 minutes, stirring until the leeks soften. Stir in the tomato paste and cook for an additional minute.
Pour in the wine, cooking until reduced by half. If using a skillet, transfer to slow cooker, scraping any bits left behind.
Add stock, diced tomatoes, Old Bay seasoning, and sugar. Stir well.
In a cup, whisk water and flour until smooth, then stir into the soup. Season with salt and pepper.
Cover and cook on HIGH for 2 hours (or LOW for 4 hours).
Taste and adjust seasoning. Stir in shrimp, crab, cream, and parsley, cooking for 15 minutes or until shrimp is pink.
Mix lemon juice, mayonnaise, Dijon mustard, and whole grain mustard in a small bowl.